- 1. You Will be A Mother
- 2. You Will Lose Yourself
- 3. Say Goodbye to Your Attractive Body
- 4. Not knowing what the baby wants
- 5. Diaper rashes
- 6. You will get a dud
- 7. Career Dilemma
- 8. Your Relationship Won’t Be The Same
- 9. Baby-Bath Time
- 10. You’ll Be Trapped With Your Children
- 11. The Crying Syndrome
- 12. Never Enough Money
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Change can be scary especially if you have recently become a mother for the first time. The arrival of your child definitely changes your world dramatically. However, whether you’re doing something right or how will this change or influence you or the chemistry between you and your partner, are some of the most common things new mothers worry about.
1. You Will be A Mother
Becoming a mother is bound to make to you look at the way you were parented. Whatever your opinion of your mother’s mothering, you will, at some point, hear her voice coming out of your mouth and wince. It’s inevitable; your mom is your first and strongest model of parenting. The key to becoming the kind of parent you want to be, rather than following blindly in the footsteps of familiarity, is awareness. Think about what you learned from your mother and decide what you want to emulate and what you want to avoid.
2. You Will Lose Yourself
Transitioning from an independent person to a parent involves a balance of holding on to the things that are important to you and knowing when to let go of the ideas that are no longer crucial to your sense of self. But growing into a new version of you doesn’t mean you’re saying goodbye to these parts forever. Will becoming a parent change you?
3. Say Goodbye to Your Attractive Body
Your body undergoes a lot of changes during pregnancy, childbirth, and the period of breastfeeding. With all the sexiness being stripped off and a body covered with stretch marks, it is definitely hard to feel sexually attractive. Neither do you have the time or the energy to pamper yourself and look pretty. With a baby ever-ready to scream, howl, and cry, finding the opportunity to get cozy with your partner can be a bit of a challenge. But then again, this too is a phase that shall pass.
4. Not knowing what the baby wants
It’s natural for you to freak out when your baby’s whining. But going into the hyper mode isn’t right. Babies take some time to adjust to our world and thus crying is completely normal. You’ll learn to get the cues with time and, trust us when we say this, crying killed nobody. So worry less. Taking the baby in your hands and rocking a little will help.
5. Diaper rashes
Constant wearing of nappies and diapers is going to leave your baby with a sour butt and ugly rashes that could burn. It’s okay, it happens to every baby. But if you’re too worried apply some soothing moisturizing cream or keep them without nappies for a while and it will help heal the rashes.
6. You will get a dud
Pregnancy is a big unknown. You’re brewing some kind of baby in there, but much of what he’s got in store for you will not become clear until much later, when he grows old enough to express himself. In the meantime, you’re faced with a whole lot of existential uncertainty. This can be terribly uncomfortable, but it can also be exciting. If you’re feeling worried, keep in mind that whatever you’re anxious about is probably unlikely (and even if it should happen, the anxiety is quite possibly worse than the reality).
7. Career Dilemma
With a baby in the picture, your work is definitely going to take a backseat, for a few days at least. You can’t just decide to work late nights because your baby needs you. At home, you feel you’re not giving a hundred percent to cater to your baby’s needs. In fact, almost all mothers go through this phase, but the good news is this too shall pass soon.
8. Your Relationship Won’t Be The Same
The introduction of a baby into a family will alter the dynamic — but that doesn’t mean it will be worse, and it doesn’t mean you’re going to lose all the things that are good about it. Co-parenting gives you a whole new playing field to operate on. It can take hard work on both parents’ parts, but when a good co-parenting relationship grows out of a good romantic relationship, your bond will be stronger than ever.
9. Baby-Bath Time
Yes, you have to be extra careful while giving your newborn a bath. For the first month, it is best to give your newborn a sponge bath, but sooner or later, you have to give your delicate little baby a bath in the tub. Of course, you’ll have a lot of apprehensions but there are certain things you could do to make it a bit easier. Keep everything that you need close by―soaps, to shampoos, washcloths, or towel. Work on only one area of the body at a time to prevent your baby from slipping.
10. You’ll Be Trapped With Your Children
Once you cross the bridge into parenthood, there is no turning back. You are forever subject to different rules, amplified vulnerability, and heightened anxiety. Your new reality will become such a part of who you are that your former past, relatively carefree life may start to feel like a movie you watched on cable once. This might sound really depressing now, but soon it will seem only sort of depressing. Because that thing parents always say about how they could never imagine their lives without their children? It’s mostly true.
11. The Crying Syndrome
Babies cry when are hungry. They also cry when they want to sleep or are hurt and the same for every other thing they want to express. Clearly crying is the only way they can express their feelings. But that doesn’t mean it’s an alarm for you. Try soothing techniques to get them to stop and you’ll be sorted.
12. Never Enough Money
Kids are expensive and the economy sucks — there’s no point in pretending this doesn’t add up to some very valid anxiety. But worries about being able to provide for your child can take on mythical proportions if you let them get out of control. You may not be able to give your child everything you want (or everything he wants), but there’s reason to believe this is not a bad thing. Children who grow up in homes where money is an issue gain some skills that kids with seemingly unlimited resources do not. Budgets teach boundaries and help kids prioritize and learn the value of money management.